My son, who is 8, is also a sensitive like me. He is very aware of energy and the presence of spirit. Since he started talking he has mentioned things he sees or hears. Before my own awakening I always put it off as a child’s imagination. His intense fear of the dark or imaginary people he would talk to was chalked up as just being a kid. It wasn’t until after I, too, became re-aware of things that I took notice in what he was actually seeing and hearing. I say re-aware because I believe I have always been a sensitive, but I suppressed these abilities deeply until they could no longer be held down. I decided shortly after coming into my own awareness that I wanted to give my son opportunities to express that I never had.
I can count on one hand the times my son has slept past 6 am. No matter how late I’ve let him stay awake, the kid has just never slept for long. When he was 2 or 3, I would wake in the middle of the night to him drawing pictures in a book, or on the wall. We monitored his sugar intake and media time. I even took him to the pediatrician, worried something was wrong. Before she died, my mother told me I was the same way as a young child. I just did not want to sleep. I’m not sure if it has anything to do with him being a sensitive, but I have a hunch it does. In the dark, alone, everything comes to life.
I was privileged to be connected with my dear mentor early in my awakening. One of the very first things she taught me was grounding and centering my energy. As I began to do these things the panic and fear I felt so intense began to subside So, I decided this is also where I would start with my child. He was always running everywhere, it’s like he went from crawling to running. Zooming from one room to the next, fearing something was in the room with him or behind him. He absolutely could not be alone for more than a few seconds without freaking out. When we began our work together he was resistant to doing things how I showed him. He did not want to sit quietly, so I changed things up a bit. I need to add here that this has been a process and did not happen over night. As a matter of fact we recently had a bit of a setback and had to go back to basics; he only needed to be reminded of his strengths.
The start for us, as I mentioned above, was not the easiest. His will is very strong, he is independent in his thinking and does not like being told what to do. I respect him as an individual and free thinker. To me there are clear lines with boundaries, discipline, and integrating those things with freedom in a child’s life. Merging these important aspects together is when magic happens! Before I had even had an awakening I would catch him from time to time sitting in the lotus pose with his eyes closed. I thought it was cute, and probably just something he had seen on TV. However, as the years passed, he did those things less and less. Naturally, this is where I tried to start him with meditation, since he was obviously familiar with this, but he did NOT like doing it this way, because it was me “telling him” what to do with his energy and mind.
To make things easier, for both of us, we instead started with just familiarizing him with what energy feels like. We made a game out of it. I would have him do the old “ball of energy” in between your hands and expand it. I had him lay down, close his eyes, and then I would place my hand over his head or chest and see if he could “feel” the energy. He would laugh and laugh and wiggle around when he felt it. We did this for a while and then he would practice on me or himself, but mostly on the cat. He became confident and excited to practice. After a few weeks he felt comfortable with what energy was. He had learned how to center this energy at his heart and we would exercise it together, pushing the energy down to the Earth’s heart and pulling it back into his, then pushing it to Source and pulling all the way back to him and down to the earth. Around this time he began calling Source by another name (Lafeesh) which was fine with me, it is part of the flexibility that I think is vital for a child’s growth. He would describe to me everything he would see or feel, and he was elated to have fun with it. He got to a place where he was able to do those things on his own, and at night when the energies around him became too intense, he would work with his energy and “Lafeesh” to comfort him.
I can often tell when I am not in balance by his behavior. He will suddenly become afraid of being in his room alone, or he won’t go down the dark hallway to the bathroom. He races and zooms from one place or another in a panic. I mention this because children do not carry the amount of debris in their energy fields that adults do, so they will pick up the energy in others very easily. He reminds me through his actions to not only check myself, but in return remind him of his own power, that HE is in control of his own energy field. He has been one of my greatest teachers in this way.
He still wakes up early, and his bedtime is rarely changed; we try to keep things as consistent as possible. The difference is that now he does not wake up in the middle of the night, he does not fight like hell about going to sleep, and he sleeps well without every light in the house on. After he wakes and has his breakfast he spends time in silent meditation, 1 minute for every year he is alive. He has been known a few times to stay a bit longer. At night, we play the meditation music for him and he does his own little thing before bed, sleeping peacefully through the night. Recently, he told me about spirits that visit him. He calls them “helpers”. He says they move so fast that sometimes they make him nervous and he wants to hide. A simple reminder that he is in control of his space put an end to this fear. Watching him come into this power is one of the most satisfying times of my life. As he realizes his true self, the fear melts away.
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